List of Symptoms

Guess it's about time I listed the symptoms of RAD so you can identify more with what we are dealing with. Often times, when I discribe some of the behaviors we are dealing with, people reply, "Well, that's every child." It isn't if you put all of the behaviors together and identify the severity. I will list the symptons, along with the letter of my children and the severity of the symptom on a scale of 0 to 10, 10 being most severe.

Unable to give and receive love- D: 0, E: 7, B: 6, C: 0, A: 4

Oppositional, argumentative, defiant- D: 5, E: 9, B: 6, C: 6, A: 6

Emotionally phony, hollow, or empty- D: 0, E: 8, B: 6, C: 0, A: 1

Manupulative or controlling- D: 1, E: Can I go higher than a 10?, B: 7, C: 4, A: 5

Has frequent or intense angry outbursts- D: 5, E: 8, B: 9, C: 5, A: 6

Is an angry child inside- for the most part, all 0

Unable to cry about something sad- D: 0, E: 10, B: 8, C: 1, A: 3

Avoids or resists physical touch- D: 0, E: at first 10, now 5, B: 4, C: 1, A: 1

Cannot be trusted- D: 1, E: 9, B: 10, C: 7, A: 9

Has little or no conscience- D: 1, E: 9, B: 9, C: 7, A: 10

Is superficially engaging and charming- D: 0, E: 10, B: 8, C: 3, A: 7

Lack of eye contact on parental terms- D: 0, E: 7 getting better, was a 10+, B: 8, C-0, A: 7

Indiscriminately affectionate on parents' terms- D:5, E: 7, B: 10, C: 3, A: 9

Not affectionate on parents' terms- D: 0, E: 8, B: 3, C:1, A: 3

Destructive to self, others and property- D: 0, E: 0, B:9, C: 7, A: 7

More disobedient to Mom than Dad- D: 0, E: 4, B: 2, C: 2, A: 6

Cruel to animals- all 0 except B: 5 very controlling

Steals- D: 0, E: 9, B: 3, C: 7, A: 7

Lies about the obvious- D: 1, E: 7 mostly when caught doing something, B: 9. C: 6, A: 7

Is impulsive- D:1, E: 8, B: 100, C: 2, A: 5

Is hyperactive- D:0, E:4, B:100000, C: 4, A:5

Lacks cause and effect thinking- D:2, E: 7 was a 10, B: 8, C: 8, A: 9

Gorges or hordes food- D:0, E: 8, B: 8, C: 4, A: 4, A, B, C, and E used to be at a 10

Has poor peer relationships- D:2, E:9, B: 7, C: 3, A: 5

Preoccupation with fire, blood and violence- all 0

Persistent nonsense questions or incessant chatter- D: non-verbal, E: 9, B: 10, C: 9, A, 7

Inappropriately demanding and clingy- D: 3, E: 7 has gotten much better, B: 8, C: 7, A: 6

Sexual acting out- D-1 (pre-puberty), E: 4, B: 8, C: 4, A: 4

Bossy with Peers- D:0, E: 10, B: 10, C: 7, A: 10

If you're keeping track, D, our biological son has a total of 28, most of them due to his cerebral palsy and inability to communicate. E, our oldest daughter and the child who was with M the longest, has a total of 193. B, our middle daughter, has a total of 197. C, our youngest son, has a total of 108. A, our youngest daughter, has a total of 156. WOW!!! That's an eye-opener! No wonder I feel like I'm going insane!! Not sure if C's high score is from RAD or his age. He never had his "terrible 2's" so I figure he's making up for it at 4. My score would be 22. With a total of 290, B, A, and E fall into the "moderate" stage, and C falls into the "mild" range. This makes me tired just looking at it. Guess I should just finish my ice cream and get a good night's sleep.